When you see the green expert checkmark on a wikiHow article, you know that the article has received careful review by a qualified expert. If you are on a medical article, that means that an actual doctor, nurse or other medical professional from our medical review board reviewed and approved it. Similarly, veterinarians review our pet articles, lawyers review our legal articles, and other experts review articles based on their specific areas of expertise. Not having trust in a relationship can lead to major problems and might even end your relationship. An easy way to build trust is to relate to your partner differently. Communicate more and be willing to be open with each other. Feeling insecure can lead to trust issues, so build your self-esteem and do things that you enjoy on your own. If you struggle to trust your partner due to past hurts, consider getting therapy and working through these problems. Back away from monitoring their activities. It might be difficult to create space for your partner. Give your partner trust first and see how it feels. You might misinterpret anything that you find. Talk openly with your partner. Clearly talking things over with your partner can help you work through trust issues. Being able to clearly communicate without feeling like either of you are hiding something can increase communication and build trust. If there are situations that worry you, state your concerns and why they bother you. Let your partner respond and hear them out. Get in the habit of having these talks without pressing them for information. If you accuse or blame them of things, they may become defensive. If you appear mad or upset, they may not want to talk. Keep from blaming each other. Blame only makes things worse when trust is shaky. If your partner feels mistrust in you or you trust your partner less, be cautious to not blame them. Instead, be receptive to what they say and hear them out. Ask questions instead of making accusations. On such occasions, it's worth changing your approach and finding out more details. Trust issues can ruin a relationship quickly. The person can help you and your partner talk through your difficulties and find new ways to relate to one another. Your counselor will support you to make changes to the way you interact together and begin to rebuild your trust. If you feel insecure in yourself, you may feel unworthy of your partner or scared they will find someone better than you. Recognize that these are your own insecurities and may have nothing to do with your partner. Raise your self-esteem by acknowledging your strengths, doing things that make you feel good about yourself, and replacing negative self-talk with positive self-talk. They can help build your self-esteem, which may strengthen your relationship. Explore your interests and hobbies. Develop yourself as an individual, not just as a partner in a relationship. Having interests and hobbies can also provide an outlet for stress. Find an activity that makes you feel good that you enjoy. Try to engage in your hobby at least once a week. Find support with friends and family. Talk about the jealousy or trust problems you experience and gain some perspective with a trusted friend or family member. If you need some help or advice, go to someone you trust to talk it out. Even if they cannot help you, they can still listen. Make time for meals, nights out, and activities with people you care about. Manage your emotions in a healthy way. If you struggle to manage anxiety or jealousy in your relationship, learn to cope with these emotions without lashing out or hurting your partner. If you feel stressed, try taking some before accusing your partner or feeling distrustful in them. This can help calm your body and your mind. Recognize your past hurt. Perhaps you were hurt in a past relationship or in your family, which now affects your ability to trust your current partner. While your experiences are valid, recognize that your partner is not the person who hurt you. If trust was broken in the past, forgive it and move on if you wish to continue the relationship. Remember, however, that your current partner has not cheated on you. Identity the current problems around trust. Take a moment and think about the specific problems you experience with trust. Pinpoint the behaviors or situations that make you feel uncomfortable. Ask yourself if your partner acts suspicious, has lied to you in the past, or has been unfaithful in any way. Be willing to tolerate intense emotions and not do something reckless like cheat or take it out on your partner. Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and allow yourself to move on. Accept the lessons and move past the hurt by forgiving yourself. Talk to a therapist on your own. Perhaps you were abused as a child or deeply hurt in a past relationship. A therapist can help you work through your feelings and heal from your pain. You can also get a recommendation from a physician or friend. So it follows that a break in trust can indeed have serious implications. It is important to first understand that a breach in trust is very serious, and it is important to be willing to put in the time to attempt to repair the trust over time. It is not a matter of a simple apology. An example might be a sexual affair with another person or a strong emotional entanglement with another person. It can also mean that repeatedly the truth is not told, and partners cannot count on the other person to do what they say or promise. If not, then consider doing so now. If you did, then it might be time to forgive and start again. However, don't be naive; pay attention if your partner keeps their word. Also, try not to be over-controlling because of past errors. If you cannot forgive, then it might be better to end the current relationship. But it also sounds like you feel powerless to change at this point, and are in a relationship problem again. Consider seeing a therapist who can help you move out of this impasse which you have the insight to recognize.